The C.C. Process

This will be a brief blog about the conscious communication process, as we spent the last 3 hours mostly on practicing basic examples of the OFNR method which we use to make people more inclined to listen our further comments. What was important about the stating an observation is that it should be specific in time and context. "He never brushes his teeth" vs "I didn't brush his teeth last week". While expressing feelings, we should be careful about offending the others with accusations such as saying "I feel excluded". This phrase is the same as "you excluded me" thus it is an accusation. We should also take responsibility about our feelings. Saying "I feel sad because you left me", means that you are the reason of my sadness but the actual reason of me being sad is that I don't enjoy being alone. Someone leaving me is the stimulus in this example.
One thing I didn't find correct with the class was about the examples of expressing needs. The examples were in conflict with the theories we were thought as some strategies were accepted as needs. The example that stuck in my mind is the one were "spending the evening together" is considered a need. I recall that we were told that actions we do to fulfill our needs are strategies therefore spending the evening together is a strategy to fulfill the need of companionship, entertainment and such...