The main aim of the last class was to give us an idea how to perceive the messages people give to us or how to shape our expressions in a way which doesn't disconnect us from the outside environment. Considering that the best way to live is to live in a life of connection, we should tell what we think in a way that people can understand what is important for us. Learning this process of having a proper communication we were thought is important because there isn't any guarantee of connection in life, it depends on what we say. The prof used the phrase "enemy fire" which each of us was very familiar with the concept as we face it in our everyday life. We were focusing on avoiding doing the enemy fire, as it only disconnects the conversation. We learned a method which is hard to use in real life because when in a conflict, we face high temper and it becomes hard to think. Taking long breaths is a possible way to get rid of our anger, then we can use the formula we were thought, Observation-Feelings-Needs-Request. This is a formula we can use either to connect to our world or the other person's. "I observe ... , therefore I feel..., because I need... . Evaluating the situation using these sentences makes us understand what is alive for the other person and increases our energy to connect and solve problems.
Many people tells their judgments as if they were facts. In my opinion this is the most common reason of disconnection. An interesting note from the class was that compliment is also a judgement, which makes people addicted to it and even tough it works great in short term, its long term results make people's performance drop if it stops.
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